If you’re a vegetarian…
…should you pay for a meal that your partner or friends are having that includes meat?
Put yourself in the shoes of my friend. He’s a vegetarian, however all of his past girlfriends ate meat. He didn’t really want to pay for their meals because it included meat, something that wasn’t morally right for him, but he was okay with them eating it. In the end, he ended up paying, probably out of kindness and love for his partner.
What would you do?
Take it a step further. What if you try explaining to your partner the reasons you’re not going to pay for his/her meal and they aren’t happy about it - what would you do then? For me, that’s probably the point when I’d realise I’m in the wrong relationship if I hadn’t figured that one out before.
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Kavit,
Interesting dilemma you have presented.
I am a vegetarian too and in the past most of my partners have been vegetarian too. But when some of them were meat eaters it did not bother me when eating out.
As a general rule I have not had meat or fish ever in my home, so no takeaways either.
When it comes to paying for a meal that included meat, it would not bother me as each is entitled to their choice. But I would hope that through my example, my friends and partner would reflect on eating less or no meat.
A way around this “dilemma” is to research the best vegetarin restaurants and just ensure that you suggest the chosen venue!
Some friends refrain from ordering meat dishes when in my company, so that is very considerate of them.
As for having a partner who ate meat - if were fully compatible and I am clear about what I want, she would be a vegetarian too
As a vegetarian with a non-vegetarian girlfriend, I’ve wrestled with this question. It’s important to me to be a “mench,” part of which includes paying for my gf’s meals when I take her out for dinner. But I’m not particularly comfortable paying for meat.
If I were to talk to her about this, how would the discussion go? Should I ask her not to eat meat when I take her out? She’s really quite understanding…
Would love to hear some thoughts about this.